Prepare our Hearts…

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Christmas time always seems to be so stressful and it shouldn’t be. It is a time to reflect on God’s gift of love. If this time of year makes us feel full of stress and anxiety, then were doing something wrong. Am I alone here?

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We need to be preparing our hearts more than our homes for celebrating the birth of Christ. We need to make time for enjoying the gifts and the people that God has blessed us with. We need to say “no” to things that are separating us from the true meaning of the season and “yes” to the things that have meaning. I am as guilty of overdoing it as the next person, but I’m really trying to give up some if the less important things to enjoy the simple things. I am much more productive and feel less anxious if I stop for an hour in the middle of my day and have lunch with a friend, or watch a silly Christmas movie with my youngest.

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In the end, Christmas comes and that “to do list” that never was completely done, will not matter, but the joy that you didn’t make time to experience , will be lost…

“Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me for I am gentle and lowly in heart and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” -Matthew 11:28

Treat others the way we want to be treated…


This has been weighing on my mind.

Most of us believe this is a good standard to go by. We have heard it since we were kids. So why don’t we follow it?

This is an issue with friendships, marriages and even with people we just meet. Are we to scared to go outside ourselves to see things through their eyes? Are we trying to prevent ourselves from being hurt if we open up to someone? Are we afraid to take down our walls or be vulnerable? Or, are some of us just oblivious? oblivion is NOT bliss. We should treat others the way you want to be treated, even when we don’t think that they will do it in return, these may be the hardest people to be kind to. Be Kinder than people would expect. Give people yet another chance that you may feel they may not deserve. This is something I want to work on. This time of year will make it extra challenging because so many of us seem to be so busy and overwhelmed, we forget to treat others the way we want to be treated.

“Accept the things to which fate binds you, and love the people with whom fate brings you together, but do so with all your heart” – Marcus Aurelius

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Joy in finding Christmas Cheer…reach out to help others this year


Everything is merry and bright…It’s the most wonderful time of the year right? Ummm…not always the case. Christmas for some can be the hardest time of the year. As I sit here this morning with my coffee, fire going, and my lights twinkling, I am feeling blessed that I can be cheerful and at moments..”merry and bright”. I’m not saying my life is perfect and easy right now but I feel so blessed that for the first time in several years, our family and extended family is not dealing with major illness, treatments, cancer, death or painful grieving. I can remember the days when I would rush through the store in a daze trying to find those last minute gifts,half smiling at “joyful people” just trying to get out and back to my car where I would take a deep breath and just want to cry. I want to share the things that did help me during those times. Small tokens of love from others. Friends that helped with meals when my husband was on his crazy iodine free diet. Help with my kids. invites to have a cup of coffee and just chat. little notes or cards. I can go on and on because I am very blessed with a great support system. I remember when my husband had surgery two years ago, every one of my close friends showed up at the hospital in the waiting room along with my mother and mother-in-law. They brought food and magazines and most importantly they took almost a whole day from their own busy schedule to be with me while I waited and they prayed for my husband and my family. I never forget an act of kindness and I always feel that tug at my heart to pay it forward. Sometimes people think they can’t help enough so they don’t help at all. You don’t have to build someone a house or dig a water well, not everybody can do those things, but just reach out to one person. When you see someone is in need, take a few minutes to listen to them. Offer to help with a meal or run an errand for them.  Even help those who have a hard time accepting your help, I promise, they need it most! Not to mention, helping others, helps you take your mind off of your own issues. No matter what you are going through, somebody always has it worse. I have friends and acquaintances going through some of these things I mentioned above and other things I have not mentioned. My heart goes out to them and I hope and pray they can find joy this Christmas season even with the difficulties, financial burdens and sadness. I challenge all of you to find at least one person to reach out to this month. Deliver a tree, make a meal, send a card, give a hug. “Go the extra mile. It’s never crowded”. Merry Christmas and God Bless!

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“let no one ever come to you without leaving better or happier” – Mother Teresa